Simply put -- calibrating is another word for measuring. In the context of learning NLP -- how well you "calibrate" to another person, and their state of mind, and what's going on inside their minds -- determines to a significant degree how effective your communication will be with them. The quality of your communication, both in terms of your enjoyment and the results of your communication, is dependent at least to some degree on your ability to calibrate to another person's emotional states, behavioral preferences, and patterns. Calibration is highly useful.
NLP "Calibration?" What the heck is that?
Post a Comment Thank you so much for your comments. You can improve your NLP Calibration skills right now, even if you believe you are rubbish at it so far. Now let us go in a little deeper. We improve our calibration not just at NLP Practitioners training but constantly. The better we are at calibrating in NLP, actually the more flexible we can be and the more we can understand a persons Model of the world and how they are processing.
Visual Calibration skills you can develop on your own:
An excerpt from the book: Supertraining [ click on the cover to learn more ]. There are many NLP techniques, focussing on all sorts of objectives, but two — which are of particular importance within the training environment — are calibration and congruence. In this extract from the book by Ted Garratt, learn more about them both. Calibration is a baseline NLP skill. Like all NLP skills, many trainers will already do this naturally and instinctively. On an appraisal skills training course, one person was very quiet and detached, offering nothing either in the open sessions, or even the syndicate sessions. Direct questions to the person caused obvious embarrassment and drove him even further into his shell. His skin colour changed dramatically, and his breathing pattern became shorter, sharper and higher in his chest. Over a break, a conversation was started with him, indirect questions asked regarding his role, reasons for attending the course, and what would be expected of him afterwards. It transpired that he was worried about having to do appraisals for the first time, and that his credibility might be damaged.
Unfortunately, no two people are identical and no matter how skilled you become at the skills of observation and focus you cannot assume that what you know about one person works identically for the next. Matching an individuals behaviour to Eye Accessing Cues , or micro-expressions, an individuals perception of time and person spacing, preferred representation system and so on. Before you can be effective with a client you need to Calibrate your awareness with their particular set of behaviours. The way an individual accesses memories, processes thought and emotions and experiences the world is unique. They are similarities, we all use barring disability our eyes to see, ear to hear and skin to feel and within that there are limitations that we, as human beings, have, but it is important to remember that these are similarities and not hard-and-fast rules that you can apply across the board. Whenever you meet a client or for that matter anyone with whom you are practicing NLP you will need to build up your own internal map of how they process the world. As a Practitioner you will be aware of the NLP Eye Accessing Cues which you can use as a baseline for your calibration of their thought processes. Their primary modality for representation can be deduced by listening to the language that they use and the way that they approach personal interactions. Watch for personal space issues and their placement in a room as this will also hint at their preferred style. There are a whole host of attributes that you will need to consider when calibrating to a client some obvious, such as handedness, or breathing; some less so, detail orientation for example.